Who is to blame?

Due to recent events I have had to wonder who is to blame when things don’t go the way they are supposed to.

In life, we frequently have a plan how things are supposed to work out for us. However, life is unpredictable and often hits us in the face by doing the exact opposite of what we intend for it to do. Who do you blame?

Some blame primarily themselves or place the blame on others, while others again tend to blame circumstance. I believe that there are moments when its right to blame circumstance-when you know that you did EVERYTHING in your power to make things work. There are times when your work and your input simply don’t make the cut. Then you can only blame your surroundings. Yet, what if your input wasn’t as strong as it could have been? Should you blame just yourself? Or should you be able to leverage some of the blame on others?

The case, which I find most intriguing, is when others blame you without you having anything to do with what you’re taking the blame for. Is there a point in arguing when the other side sees only what they want to see?

They are what I like to call the eternal victims. Every mistake they make is blamed on Bob, Billy, Jennifer or the circumstances. Funny enough, when something amazing happens to them, it was ALL their work… They blame failure on others while busily collecting the fruit of the labour done by others. The great thing about playing the victim is that it takes a whole lot of responsibility off your back- the awful thing dealing with one is that all that responsibility is dropped on you. The challenge continues because no matter how hard you argue, the victim will never see that they are in the wrong, because that would mean they’d have to take responsibility. Ick! There are moments when we gladly take the blame for someone close to our hearts. Nonetheless, there is a moment when to step on the breaks. You cant spend your life covering up for others- you cant always take the bullets which are rightfully intended for someone else, because its going to make you sick.

The question of blame ultimately leads to the question of responsibility. Those who are to blame are the ones responsible. Sometimes, responsibility is a scary thing because it means that you might have to change something in your life plan. Yet, at the end of the day, taking responsibility for your actions enables you to grow into a stronger person. Once you accept that there are things, which are in fact your fault, you grow as an individual.

So maybe its time you take the blame.