Friend or Frenemy?

Im feeling inspired today-sadly not in a good way. Id like to take a moment to discuss a topic which has become "incontournable" in the past few years: Frenemies.

What is a frenemy? A frenemy is someone you would consider a friend, yet who will never be a true friend to you. A frenemy makes you feel bad about yourself, uses you to make themselves feel better and will do anything to sabotage you, even indirectly, if it serves them any purpose.

Sure, there are the friends who you cry infront and there are the friends you cant even bring yourself to allow uncensored access to your Facebook profile (admit it, you do that too!!), yet where does the frenemy fit in? The problem with Frenemies is, that they DONT fit in any category. They're like the pretty girl in high school you wanted to hate because she was beautiful and smart but you couldnt because she also happened to be charming and funny.

A frenemy can pop up at any time, unanounced and smack you right in the balls. Its not pretty. Why am i writing about them? Because i have recently figured out that someone i thought a true friend, a supporter and a tutor turned out to be nothing more than a scham. Having someone talented, funny and exhilarating turn to be a frenemy is hurtful and makes you question your decisions and choices.

Ive been questioning my judgement- usually im ever so careful about who i let into my life because i dont want to be hit in the face at every chance one gets. Yet with this person, amybe i let my guard down too quickly- thats when you become vulnerable. Yet vulnerability will NEVER mean that you're weak. Yes, you may have made the wrong choice by letting someone in your life who uses you as an ego booster yet by participating in it, you forced yourself to get involved. My tip: let go. Let go of anyone who isnt going to be there for you when you really need them! When i told my frenemy that someone close to me had died, i got ZERO reaction. It was then and there that i realized i was dealing with a frenemy. Frenemies arent evil most of the time, they're simply dealing with too much of their own bagagge to be able to be a true friend to you.

This is why you should let your frenemy go and shut the door. They will never be the ones to hold your hand through a sad movie or make you laugh when you fail. You need to accept that they simply cant be who you need them to be at that moment and that maybe you will never be to them what they need you to be.